Dear Valentine’s Day Procrastinator
Did Valentine’s Day sneak up on you? And now you’re desperately trying to think of a way to make it special.
Procrastination is not uncommon when it comes to valentine’s day.
This year you still have time. Try these tips to help your valentine’s day go as smooth as possible.
Talk with your partner about valentine’s day expectations
We recommend that you check in with your partner’s expectations as well as your own expectations. What are you hoping that you’ll receive on Valentine's Day? How do you want to spend the day? Once you stop pretending that you don’t have expectations, you can clear the way for a conversation, where you and your partner can both be heard.
Your partner is not a mind reader. Oftentimes, we think our partners will just know what gifts we want or how we want to spend the day. We assume what pleases us pleases our partner. This may be what happens in fairy tales, but in real life, this isn’t the case. Relationships are made up of two unique individuals who usually have different ideas and interests. When we don’t communicate and instead, assume our partner knows what we want, we often end up feeling disappointed and unfulfilled
Get specific, share ideas, and make a plan
After you and your partner have both communicated your Valentine’s Days expectations and desires take some time to finalize your plans.
Here are some ideas:
Go to brunch
Get cocktails and dessert
Try couple’s yoga
Get takeout
Do a wine tasting
Go out with friends
Lastly, clarify the details such as; what restaurant are you going to, what time, and who is making the reservation.
Don’t compare your plans to anyone else
There are no rules on how valentine’s day “should” be. What matters most is that you are present with your partner and aware of how your partner feels the most loved.
Remember, before you get too upset at your loved one for waiting until the last minute, consider this — procrastination tends to be the rule, not the exception.
Wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day.
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