I am the 1 in 8
I am the 1 in 8 - I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I am also the 1 in 11 - I was under 45 years old at the time of my diagnosis. And, most importantly, I am the 1 in 1 - my experience with cancer was uniquely my own.
This October, like the 38 before it, we gather, under one shade of pink, in order to raise awareness for breast cancer. During a month where we bring awareness to the masses, I want to return the focus to the individuals. This is not limited solely to the person who has the diagnosis, but also to those who are closest to them. The word “cancer” means something different to each person, often informed by past experiences as well as what we see online, on TV, and in the movies. It is important to remember that a condition like breast cancer is deeply personal and can vary greatly from person to person.
Here are some key points to consider when supporting someone battling breast cancer
Empathy and Active Listening:
Start by listening without judgment. Let the person share their thoughts and feelings. It’s essential to create a safe space for them to express themselves.
Ask What They Need:
Everyone’s needs are different. Rather than assuming what they require, ask them directly. Some may need practical support like transportation to appointments, while others may simply want someone to talk to or share a meal with.
Respect Their Choices:
Respect the individual’s choices about treatment, disclosure, and lifestyle changes. Understand that their decisions may not always align with your own beliefs, but it’s crucial to support their autonomy. If they choose to keep their diagnosis private, respect their decision. Don’t share their personal information without their consent.
Stay Positive but Realistic:
While it’s important to provide emotional support, it’s also crucial to be realistic about the challenges they may face. Encourage hope but acknowledge the difficulties.
Stay Connected:
Continue to be there for them throughout their journey, even after the initial shock or diagnosis phase. The emotional and physical challenges of breast cancer extend beyond treatment.
As Chronic Illness Therapists, we think systemically. We see the world in terms of relationships and the ways in which we each influence and are influenced by the people around us. Cancer is no different, it is not a journey the person with the diagnosis takes alone.
So how can seeing a therapist help?
Individuals
Cancer can bring a range of complex emotions, fears, and thoughts. Having a safe and non-judgmental space to express these feelings can be immensely therapeutic. Many individuals find it difficult to burden their loved ones with certain thoughts and emotions, making therapy a vital outlet.
Couples
The stress of a cancer diagnosis can strain even the strongest relationships. Couples counseling can help partners communicate effectively, navigate the emotional challenges together, and address any coping strategies that may be impacting their relationship during this difficult time.
Families
Cancer affects the entire family unit. Children, in particular, may struggle to understand the changes and uncertainties that come with a cancer diagnosis. Family therapy can provide a platform for open and honest discussions, helping children and adult children alike process their emotions and fears.
Written By:
Kristen Bounds, LMFTA
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