Relationships can be a tough thing to handle, especially when it comes to commitment and marriage.

Many times, people will start to become worried about their marriage because they find that they have been arguing more than usual. Or, they don’t feel as connected to their partner as they once did. There may be little to no romance or intimacy, and often, they aren’t sure if their relationship is even worth fighting for. When this happens, many couples can end up in therapy and divorced. 

Divorce is a long process and can include a long recovery time. Getting back out there to find a new partner and date can be a process in itself. In this blog article, we’re sharing some great steps to help you get back out there with confidence! Keep on reading to learn more. 

Step 1: Take your time to recover from your divorce and go slow.

Since divorce can be such an emotionally-draining process, learning to heal your pain from your past relationship and spending time to recover from your experience will help you be more open to love. If you aren’t fully ready to let someone into your life after separating from someone who was monumentally important to you, spending time with yourself might be necessary. Some good recovery tools can be individualized therapy, spending time in meditation, journaling, or reconnecting with those you love such as family and friends. 

Step 2: Grieve the loss of your past relationship.

Being in a relationship is vital and can impact your entire life and to let that go can be a big undertaking. Healing your pain is one thing, but you also want to grieve the loss of your relationship and let go of your past. Before you open yourself up to enter your next relationship, making sure you’ve fully grieved the loss will help you move into the dating world with ease. It will also help you not project anything from your past relationship onto your next one! Before you enter the dating world, you want to make sure you are fully ready.

Step 3: Set personal boundaries and decide what you want for your next relationship before trying to meet someone.

Since you could have emotional turmoil from your past relationship or divorce, it could be a good idea to discover what you are looking for in your next relationship and to decide what boundaries you need to set for that. Making a list of boundaries you believe you will need and what kind of person you are looking for will help you move forward on your next step in finding your perfect partner. 

Step 4: Don’t be afraid to be honest about your past.

Divorce can be hard and being open and honest with the person you are choosing to date will help ease you into dating after your divorce. You don’t have to share all the intimate details of your past, but being open about your divorce or where you are at in your dating journey can help you and the person you are dating ease into a hopeful relationship. Some great ways to get started with an open conversation would be to talk about what kind of relationship you would like to have with one another, which could turn into a deeper and more intimate conversation later down the road. 

Step 5: Always trust your heart.

Trust is a vital piece to any relationship, especially when it comes to one that involves your heart. When you are in a relationship or beginning to date someone new, following your heart will help lead you as you journey through the dating world. This will help you open yourself back up to new beginnings and let new and wonderful people into your life. This is especially important if you are coming out of a relationship and are learning to trust yourself again. 

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Dating after divorce is much easier said than done, but our team would be happy to support you in getting back out there. We offer relationship and mental health services from our Wake Forest, NC-based therapy practice and across North Carolina. Feel free to learn more about the benefits divorce counseling can offer by following these simple steps:

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Divorce counseling isn’t the only service offered by our Wake Forest, NC-based practice. Our team is happy to offer individual therapy for relationship issues, couples workshops, and marriage counseling. We also offer family therapy, therapy for relationship trauma, couples intensive therapy, foundations of lasting love, infertility, and AAMFT supervision. For more helpful information, please read our blog or visit our services page!