In relationships, committed love and erotic desire are two very different things. If you ask your partner what committed love is, they could give you an answer. But, if asked what erotic desire is, what would they say? As therapists, we often see couples who have neglected the eroticism in their relationships, redirecting it or shutting it down altogether. We are given many models of committed love in our lives, but when looking for that “spark” to heat things up we often miss the mark.
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